Domestic Violence Is . . .

The 5 Forms of Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence Facts

Are You in Danger?

Am I Being Abused?

The Lethality of Domestic Violence

The Cycle of Violence

Power & Control

Safety Plan

Court & Judicial
Process

Teens & Dating

For Parents

Domestic Violence Is . . .

physical or emotional abuse directed at partners, siblings, children or elders. If anyone in your family is experiencing abuse, please read the following tips. They can help your family cope with violence, recover from the pain of abuse and go on to experience the joy and trust of supportive, happy relationships.

Violence in the home harms everyone in the family. Children are especially vulnerable. When they see violent behavior between family members, or when they're abused themselves, they may grow up to be abusive to their partners or children. As parents it's our responsibility to prevent family violence and this cycle of abuse.

If you're coping with the violence in your home, remember you're not alone. Abusive behavior affects every neighborhood, ethnic background and economic class. No family is immune. But no family should be victimized by violence.

The Five Forms of Domestic Violence

Physical

Inflicting or attempting to inflict physical injury
example: grabbing, pinching, shoving, slapping, hitting, biting, arm-twisting, kicking, punching, hitting with blunt objects, stabbing, shooting

Withholding access to resources necessary to maintain health example: medication, medical care, wheelchair, food or fluids, sleep, hygienic assistance Forcing alcohol or other drug use

Sexual

Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent
example: marital rape, acquaintance rape, forced sex after physical beating, attacks on the sexual parts of the body, forced prostitution, fondling, sodomy, sex with others

Attempting to undermine the victim' sexuality
example: treating him/her in a sexually derogatory manner, criticizing sexual performance and desirability, accusations of infidelity, withholding sex

Psychological

Instilling or attempting to instill fear
example: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, victim, and/or others, threatening to harm and/or kidnap children, menacing, blackmail, harassment, destruction of pets and property, mind games, stalking

Isolating or attempting to isolate victim from friends, family, school, and/or work example: withholding access to phone and/or transportation, undermining victim's personal relationships, harassing others, constant "checking up, constant accompaniment, use of unfounded accusations, forced imprisonment

Emotional

Undermining or attempting to undermine victim sense of worth
example: constant criticism, belittling victim's abilities and competency, name-calling, insults, put-downs, silent treatment, manipulating victim's feelings and emotions to induce guilt, subverting a partner's relationship with the children, repeatedly making and breaking promises

Economic

Making or attempting to make the victim financially dependent
example: maintaining total control over financial resources including victim's earned income or resources received through public assistance or social security, withholding money and/or access to money, forbidding attendance at school, forbidding employment, on-the-job harassment, requiring accountability and justification for all money spent, forced welfare fraud, withholding information about family running up bills for which the victim is responsible for payment

source: New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence